"It’s a monumental overask to expect women to be gentle with the egos of men who only feigned friendship in order to get laid."
No One is Entitled to Sex: Why We Should Mock the Nice Guys of OkCupid (via peachersen)
Written by a woman. As it should be.
"3 percent of the decision-making in media comes from women. That means 97 percent of how women are portrayed is decided on by men."
Independent Lens, PBS
“Wonder Women! The Untold Story of American Superheroines” (via ihopeyoucontinue4ever)
It also means that 97 percent of how men are portrayed in media are decided on by men. Something to remind MRAs and their ilk of when they complain about the stereotype of men as inept slobs, bad fathers, etc in media and advertising.
Men have the power. So when we men are shat on by the powers that be you don’t get to try and blame women for that.
"What happens when men enter women’s feminist spaces? Dale Spender did an experiment to find out, and published the results in Man Made Language:at the discussion, which was a workshop on sexism and education in London, were thirty-two women and five men. Apart from the fact that the tape revealed that the men talked for over 50 per cent of the time, it also revealed that what the men wanted to talk about – and the way in which they wanted to talk – was given precedence."
No More ‘what about teh menz’ (via feministartdegree)
get the fuck out of our spaces. make your spaces feminist before coming to ours.
(Source: sisterresister, via thirzac)
"She hated the namelessness of women in stories, as if they lived and died so that men could have metaphysical insights."
— Chad Harbach, The Art of Fielding (via fissionaccomplished)
Porn is about male fantasy. The fantasy is that women like everything you do to them, as man.
So how does this translate into real life? Women spend a lot of time and energy trying to please men. We learn early on that we are being looked at – that we are to be looked at. That we are performers. It took years before I actually started enjoying sex. YEARS. I think what I enjoyed most about sex, when I was younger, was the feeling of being desired. The actual sex part was super boring for the first while.
We learn, as girls and women, that the performance is more important than the actual feeling.
Reblogging this as a reminder because I still struggle with performing versus actually enjoying sex because of the abuse I’ve gone through.
Wow, my life.
(Source: vomohiper, via brighteyedfemme)