yes. yes. yes. yes. yes.
being nice to people who are harassing you is a survival tactic. girls learn this by the time they turn 12, if you flat out tell a guy no, he’ll become angry & the situation will get worse, sometimes even violent. you are taught to be nice and let them down easy, which then you are accused of “leading them on”. There is no winning, you just got to choose which you find less horrible.
And people have the nerve to ask why women get into relationships with abusive men
This is why, people. This is why. Stop being complicit in it.
Men would prefer if feminist activism was the way women are already socialized to be: passive, placating, male appeasing, self-blaming and overall, submissive.
"you should be nicer!" is basically saying "you should do your activism in a way that i can ignore more easily!"
How much time have you spent talking to some cishet dude when you didn’t want to just because you’re scared of what his reaction would be if you declined?
…and that’s what it means to be socialized into fear and constant male accommodation as a means of survival
American author, activist, and lecturer Helen Keller, June 11, 1916 (via womenaresociety)
Reminder that Helen Keller was a bad ass, and the fact that people only remember her as an “inspirational” child is really annoying.