"Self-love cannot flourish in isolation. It is no easy task to be self-loving. Simple axioms that make self-love sound easy only make matters worse. It leaves many people wondering why, if it is so easy, they continue to be trapped by feelings of low self-esteem or self-hatred. Using a working definition of love that tells us it is the action we take on behalf of our own or another’s spiritual growth provides us with a beginning blueprint for working on the issue of self-love. When we see love as a combination of trust, commitment, care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility, we can work on developing these qualities or, if they are already a party of who we are, we can learn to extend them to ourselves."

— bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions (via sister-bell)

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"An amazing thing happens when we are honest and vulnerable. We allow people to know us and love us. We also allow people to reject us, and that can sometimes hurt. But the truth is, they would have rejected us anyway. It’s just that it would have taken a little more time."

— Donald Miller | Blue Like Jazz (via tallerthanlions)

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“We like to pretend that our generous impulses come naturally. But the reality is we often become our kindest, most ethical selves only by seeing what it feels like to be a selfish jackass first. It’s the reason… we have to get burned before we understand the power of fire; the reason our most meaningful relationships are so often those that continued beyond the very juncture at which they came the closest to ending. Withholding distorts reality. It makes the people who do the withholding ugly and small-hearted. It makes the people from whom things are withheld crazy and desperate and incapable of knowing what they actually feel.

So release yourself from that. Don’t be strategic or coy. Strategic and coy are for jackasses. Be brave. Be authentic. Practice saying the word “love” to the people you love so when it matters the most to say it, you will.


― Cheryl StrayedTiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar (via cocoepapy)

"When I talked to friends and acquaintances about self-love, I was surprised to see how many of us feel troubled by the notion, as though the very idea implies too much narcissism or selfishness. We all need to rid ourselves of misguided notions about self-love. We need to stop fearfully equating it with self-centredness and selfishness. Self-love is the foundation of our loving practice. Without it our other efforts to love fail. Giving ourselves love we provide our inner being with the opportunity to have unconditional love we may have always longed to receive from someone else…When we give this precious gift to ourselves, we are able to reach out to others from a place of fulfillments and not from a place of lack."

— bell hooks, All About Love  (via tobeya)

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Happy Birthday, Fred. Although his birthday is March 20.


Happy Birthday, Fred. Although his birthday is March 20.

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"We met before our bodies had an exchange.
Intertwined in the cosmos as nomadic
galactic dust, we lived in the pulse of the universe.
You are unfamiliar physically, but that spirit I know like the route to my house.
I have traveled your map many times, and
each time with different looking baggage.
In this realm, we have never spoken, but your arrival
has been forecasted since before my birth.
I want to sit still in the midst of this chaos, and explain to you
how much I have missed you."

— Mira BothWays, “I’ve Been Waiting.” (via mirabothways)

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"I want every piece of me to crash into every piece of you,
I swear to god that’s how they make stars."

— Mary Lambert, from Sarasvatī (via slutstatus)

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"Basically we are all looking for someone who knows who we are and will break it to us gently."

— Robert Brault (via deforest)

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