"Patriarchy, like any colonizing system, does not create the context for women and men to love one another."
— bell hooks in Communion: Female Search for Love (via daniellemertina)
"Someone asked me what home was and all I could think of were the stars on the tip of your tongue, the flowers sprouting from your mouth, the roots entwined in the gaps between your fingers, the ocean echoing inside of your ribcage."
— e.e. cummings (via one-quote-a-day)
"He loved her, of course, but better than that, he chose her, day after day. Choice: that was the thing."
Sherman Alexie, The Toughest Indian In The World
"For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that “unless you love yourself, no one else will love you.”…The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation."
— Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. — “The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog” (via kiddoliddo)
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"The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things in life like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people in life recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation. For me, I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And lessen the suffering of others. You’d be surprised how far that gets you."
— Neil deGrasse Tyson (via therightfit)
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"Self-love cannot flourish in isolation. It is no easy task to be self-loving. Simple axioms that make self-love sound easy only make matters worse. It leaves many people wondering why, if it is so easy, they continue to be trapped by feelings of low self-esteem or self-hatred. Using a working definition of love that tells us it is the action we take on behalf of our own or another’s spiritual growth provides us with a beginning blueprint for working on the issue of self-love. When we see love as a combination of trust, commitment, care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility, we can work on developing these qualities or, if they are already a party of who we are, we can learn to extend them to ourselves."
— bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions (via sister-bell)
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"An amazing thing happens when we are honest and vulnerable. We allow people to know us and love us. We also allow people to reject us, and that can sometimes hurt. But the truth is, they would have rejected us anyway. It’s just that it would have taken a little more time."
— Donald Miller | Blue Like Jazz (via tallerthanlions)
“We like to pretend that our generous impulses come naturally. But the reality is we often become our kindest, most ethical selves only by seeing what it feels like to be a selfish jackass first. It’s the reason… we have to get burned before we understand the power of fire; the reason our most meaningful relationships are so often those that continued beyond the very juncture at which they came the closest to ending. Withholding distorts reality. It makes the people who do the withholding ugly and small-hearted. It makes the people from whom things are withheld crazy and desperate and incapable of knowing what they actually feel.
So release yourself from that. Don’t be strategic or coy. Strategic and coy are for jackasses. Be brave. Be authentic. Practice saying the word “love” to the people you love so when it matters the most to say it, you will.
— ― Cheryl Strayed, Tiny Beautiful Things: Advice on Love and Life from Dear Sugar (via cocoepapy)
"When I talked to friends and acquaintances about self-love, I was surprised to see how many of us feel troubled by the notion, as though the very idea implies too much narcissism or selfishness. We all need to rid ourselves of misguided notions about self-love. We need to stop fearfully equating it with self-centredness and selfishness. Self-love is the foundation of our loving practice. Without it our other efforts to love fail. Giving ourselves love we provide our inner being with the opportunity to have unconditional love we may have always longed to receive from someone else…When we give this precious gift to ourselves, we are able to reach out to others from a place of fulfillments and not from a place of lack."
— bell hooks, All About Love (via tobeya)