When you lose someone who occupies a large space in your life, you feel like everyone else knows them, too. I wanted to rush here and talk about how Kirby didn’t make it through her second round of chemo, and everyone would be shocked and gutted just like I am. It’s a strange feeling that not everyone knows the woman who gave you more confidence and inspiration than anyone else, and that someone who you wished was your mother could possibly be a stranger to the majority of the world.
Well she could not be fucked with, but who would have wanted to? She didn’t engage in any competitive behaviour and worked to give young women opportunities in the music industry and the confidence to go as far as they could have wanted. There wasn’t single thing she touched that didn’t get better, and her time here was a gift.
I’m sorry you didn’t know her.
"Patriarchy, like any colonizing system, does not create the context for women and men to love one another."
— bell hooks in Communion: Female Search for Love (via daniellemertina)
"Someone asked me what home was and all I could think of were the stars on the tip of your tongue, the flowers sprouting from your mouth, the roots entwined in the gaps between your fingers, the ocean echoing inside of your ribcage."
— e.e. cummings (via one-quote-a-day)
"He loved her, of course, but better than that, he chose her, day after day. Choice: that was the thing."
Sherman Alexie, The Toughest Indian In The World
"For years mental health professionals taught people that they could be psychologically healthy without social support, that “unless you love yourself, no one else will love you.”…The truth is, you cannot love yourself unless you have been loved and are loved. The capacity to love cannot be built in isolation."
— Bruce D. Perry, M.D., Ph.D. — “The Boy Who Was Raised As A Dog” (via kiddoliddo)
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"The problem, often not discovered until late in life, is that when you look for things in life like love, meaning, motivation, it implies they are sitting behind a tree or under a rock. The most successful people in life recognize, that in life they create their own love, they manufacture their own meaning, they generate their own motivation. For me, I am driven by two main philosophies, know more today about the world than I knew yesterday. And lessen the suffering of others. You’d be surprised how far that gets you."
— Neil deGrasse Tyson (via therightfit)
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"Self-love cannot flourish in isolation. It is no easy task to be self-loving. Simple axioms that make self-love sound easy only make matters worse. It leaves many people wondering why, if it is so easy, they continue to be trapped by feelings of low self-esteem or self-hatred. Using a working definition of love that tells us it is the action we take on behalf of our own or another’s spiritual growth provides us with a beginning blueprint for working on the issue of self-love. When we see love as a combination of trust, commitment, care, respect, knowledge, and responsibility, we can work on developing these qualities or, if they are already a party of who we are, we can learn to extend them to ourselves."
— bell hooks, All About Love: New Visions (via sister-bell)
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"An amazing thing happens when we are honest and vulnerable. We allow people to know us and love us. We also allow people to reject us, and that can sometimes hurt. But the truth is, they would have rejected us anyway. It’s just that it would have taken a little more time."
— Donald Miller | Blue Like Jazz (via tallerthanlions)